Obesity Treatment – Beta Version Development 1
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I wish it was easy and I could just give you a pill and all your pain and excess fat would just go away, but my years with helping people lose weight through juice fasting has taught me a valuable lesson. For approximately 15% of overweight people and 90% of people with compulsive issues–juice fasting followed by a healthy diet is not enough. I saw people lose 5 pounds on a 40-day water fast. It was very clear that the problem of obesity was as complex, perplexing, and difficult as healing cancer. To even have a chance of success, a protocol would have to be holistic, and have profound psychological impact to every avenue of thinking that destroys low self-esteem which is the base of all discipline and self-control. Therefore, this obesity
protocol is strategically designed into a four-pronged attack:
1. Cellular Nutrition- to address any cellular condition that may be causing obesity and implement calorie reduction do that catabolism can reduce fatty tissues safely without any negative impact to health. This will involve juice-fasting, periods of water fasting, supplementation and a precise diet for obesity.
2. Mental Therapy- a self-help, self-awareness strategy to identify toxic core beliefs and re-establish healthy thinking.
3. Physical Conditioning- these daily exercises will get your blood moving. You will have choices, basically, you are going to have some sweats and be out of breath everyday.
4. Spiritual Renewal- You cant have a complete healing without a healthy relationship with God. Even if you are an Atheist, do the exercises. What is the worst that can happen. You are on your rooftop, totally naked, shouting at the world, “I am healed.”
1. Cellular Nutrition
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2. Mental Therapy Overview
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3. Physical Conditioning
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4. Spiritual Renewal
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The National Childhood Abuse Statistics state that there are over 3 million child abuses reports are made every year in the United States. Most third world countries don’t even report child abuse. If you have suffered abuses as a child, you are not alone. Indeed, the children of the world have suffered with you.
Most people consider child abuse as beating, abandonment, or rape. But abuse can come from not being supportive or giving quality time — that has an even greater impact on children who are sensitive, emotional, or artistic by nature. No matter how many times have you been beaten, insulted or ignored; no matter how messed up you feel inside; there is hope. You can live a fulfilling, joy-filled life – free of all the distorted behavioral patterns that are destroying the quality of your life.
Genetics and Psychological Traits
The abuse events of your life cause reactions. Beta
use they are powerfully emotional, and because a child’s neurology is in the development stage, these reactions are much more powerful in forming behavior than if they occurred in adult life. Simply said, the reactions of childhood get hardwired into your brain. But, there is a tolerance. Some people suffer abuse and just grow up fine. Others suffer small amount of abuse and become dysfunctional. What is the difference between the two? You inherited physical and psychological traits from your parents. Your brother may be less artistic than you, more athletic or less athletic. He may be better at Math, or failed totally. He may be more sensitive, or go through life being rarely bothered. As a child, he may have cried more than you or less than you. And the reason is genetic traits. Your physical traits are important, but also, you inherited psychological traits. Of all the traits you have inherited, two genetic psychological traits had a profound impact on the development of your childhood psychology. These two traits had the capacity to multiply the damage of abuse 50 folds. These two traits that would normally be an incredible blessing as they are used as a form of creative self-expression, the source of great works of arts, best selling novels and top songs. Yet for you, these two traits caused incredible suffering:
Sensitive children need more affection. They need more affirmation. It’s like food. If a sensitive child gets no affirmation, they get sick. Guilt and shame are like baseball bats to sensitive kids. They so want to be loved and needed. To be rejected, ignored or insulted, is traumatic. Artistic children can create a beautiful fantasy world and imaginary friends. An abused artistic child can enter a nightmare fantasy world where all of their imagination is driven by WHAT IF? What if my father comes home and beats me? What if they don’t like at school? A creative child not only thinks it, they see the images. They feel the emotions—multiplying the effect of every abuse.
When you were born, your mother cradled you in her arms, a beautiful miracle—something so pure, so precious, so delicate, so fragile — the immediate response is profound and complete love. But love is only a feeling. A person may feel love but not act with love. Your parent’s inadequacies, distorted beliefs, childhood shame and guilt disabled the capacity to give the nurturing that you deserve. Like a root passing down through generation occurs a disease passing on from mother to daughter, from father to son. You not only inherited their genetic traits. You inherited the pain, the suffering, of his father, his grandfather down to generations. If this curse does not end with you, it will continue through the lives of your children. And they will suffer what you have suffered.
Now let’s understand the defense mechanisms you have developed to cope with your childhood trauma.
Childhood Abuse Defense Mechanisms
Defense mechanisms are psychological strategies brought into play as a response to anxiety and fear to cope with reality to maintain self-image. Simply said, your dad is beating you with a stick – a normal human would never allow that. But you’re a kid, so what do you do. There are only so many options and most kids try all of them: crying, faking sickness, hiding, lying, trying to forget that it n
Little girls want to be princesses. Boys want to be heroes. They want to feel special and loved. It is much of a need as food. They are craving to build their identity. Because who you are and how you see yourself, can determine your future. Or identity tells us how to fit in with those around us. Every compliment, encouragement, and hug, becomes brush strokes in a picture of who you are – a picture where every brush stroke adds to self perception. Your self-portrait can lead to a life of greatness because you are trying to live-up to this incredible image of who you are. Likewise, the dark-gray, lifeless brush strokes of criticism, neglect, and abuse paint a picture of a failed person – rejected, flawed, not worthy of love.
As a kid, I love to play with dominoes. Push one, and the chain reaction runs through all the dominoes right to the very last one. Child abuse is the first domino. It knocks over shame, then guilt, then confusion, then fear, then withdrawal and anger. As the final domino falls, it is time to clean up. The game is over. But even as an adult, it feels like the game continues. And no matter how much you try to cover-up, your insides are a mess. Not one domino stands.
You don’t know why you have to work so hard, or why everything has to be so perfect, or why you cannot stay on a diet. All you know is, you feel a lot of fear, confusion, self-doubt, and low self-esteem every single day. Now, with those kinds of emotions, food makes the perfect hiding place – a cozy little escape from the inner turmoil. It was never your intention to become grossly overweight. But it did happen, and now you’re here seeking for answers, looking for path through the darkness, and although your faith is tattered, you still have hope and enough courage to fight one more time.
Self-esteem is what you believe about yourself. Healthy self-esteem is to believe you are a good person. Low self-esteem is believing you are bad. What you believe about yourself determines your decisions, emotions, and reactions to external events. Your self-image has been rooted in toxic core beliefs like a cancer growing out of control and demanding resources. These core beliefs have become tumors in your belief system. These psychological tumors demand food, energy, and mental resources. They distort the function of the healthy psychological systems that are close to them. The end result is the death of your self-image. When you look inside, there is nothing but garbage, death and waste. To rebuild your self-esteem, we need to kill these psychological tumors. Just like fasting starves cancer, we need to starve these psychological tumors. We have to build reality-based core belief systems which will work like anti-bodies to attack the tumors. This is not a band aid for a tumor like most diet programs. This is a scientifically designed protocol with one purpose–kill what is killing you.
Your childhood abuse defense mechanisms developed harmful core beliefs. These core beliefs determine how you see yourself and the world around you. These core beliefs have powerful emotional attachments to shame, guilt, anger, and all the painful emotions caused by abuse. Most people would never say, “I’m ugly. I am a failure. I can’t do anything right.” But, these core beliefs can determine your decision-making and your future. Unless they change, your life will not change. You will be rotted like a prisoner where the only comfort is food being pushed through a small iron gate. Together, we are now going to rip apart every distorted, malicious, destructive thought pattern that is stopping you living a life brimming with love, acceptance, peace, fulfillment, joy—a life where you are courageously building your future dreams.
Identifying Core Beliefs
If you can’t see it, you can’t fix it. If an alcoholic doesn’t think he has a problem, he is not going to show up in the doors of AA. But, you’re reading this page, so you know there is a problem. But the problem is a thousand problems that will become a giant problem. And to fix a problem, we are to break that problem into 99 parts. This will be a journey of discovery—a discovery of who you really are, and a beautiful, incredible creation of God designed for fulfillment and joy. A discovery of your place in this universe. A discovery of your calling and purpose. A discovery of all the hell you’ve been living with for so many years is just an illusion. All you need is a pen, binder, paper and complete Day 1.
The 99 Day Program
Its obvious to you that a 30 day fasting or diet program will not cure a lifetime’s worth of distorted thinking and perceptions. So, this is going to be 100-day program. It will involve all aspects of weight control. Your body and your mind need healing. This is the equivalent of a mental overhaul. I like the way the Bible says it, “Let your mind be renewed.”
The good part is, there is HOPE. The bad part is, abuse defense mechanisms you have developed in childhood have become solid neurological pathways that will be with you until the end of your days. A martial artist never losses all his skills because his nerves have created automatic pathways that allow for razor-fast reflexes. Even if he stops practicing for 20 years, those pathways are still there. While he formed pathways of discipline, as a child your defense mechanism to cope with abuse have created undisciplined, chaotic, self-defeating thinking. The only solution is to rebuild new pathways, then ingrain them into behavior through repetition.
We started at DAY 99, and your goal is DAY 1. Even if there is an earthquake, typhoon or a giant solar flare disrupting all appliances on earth, let nothing get in your way. CHANT IT! Pound it into your spirit. Put it on your refrigerator. Tattoo this on your chest, “I will make DAY 1.” And just to test your resolve, we made day 99, TOUGH! You might not even make the first day.
Welcome to Day 99. If you look at your window right now, you will see normal life. But this is not another day in along series. This is a step on a journey of healing.
Day 99: Brain Rebuilding
Healing Toxic Guilt
Guilt is triggered by your conscience when you do something that you perceive is wrong. But a child has no knowledge of right and wrong which is the job of parents. If your parents make you feel gut-wrenching guilt over spilled milk, they have anger issues and you are just a kid learning how to move objects and making a normal number of mistakes. The parents should feel horrendous guilt for abusing the child. A child should feel comfortable making mistakes and learning. Instead, they are being given a powerful message through angry words that interpreted by the child as “You are clumsy. You always make mistakes. You cannot please me. You are failing”
Guilt is one of the first few dominoes that go down. An abuse event triggers the conscience, that triggers shame, that triggers guilt, that triggers low self-esteem. Guilt can be good if it leads to change, and you stop littering. Toxic carcinogenic guilt is based on an incorrect evaluation of right and wrong. A child that is sexually molested or physically abused usually believes that they have done something to deserve it. This misdirected guilt translates into the toxic belief that there is something wrong with me.
Day 99: Brain Rebuilding
- Write down a traumatic event in your life that caused you to feel guilty.
- Enter the moment and feel the power of guilt. Write down the description of the feeling.
- Think of a small child approximately the same age or gender that you know or care about and put that child in your position.
- Write what you would say to them.
- Write the emotions you feel for that child.
- What do you see as the impact that event would have on that child’s life?
- Write how this exercise has changed the perception of this abuse.
Write the following on a card and repeat every hour, out loud or mentally. Put some emotion and energy into it even if you don’t feel it. DO IT!
- I was an innocent child.
- A child is not guilty.
- This guilt is not mine.
- I refuse to have this toxic guilt in my life.
- I am free of toxic guilt.
Day 99: Spirit Rebuilding – Toxic Guilt
4 My guilt has overwhelmed me
like a burden too heavy to bear.
5 My wounds fester and are loathsome
because of my sinful folly.
6 I am bowed down and brought very low;
all day long I go about mourning.
7 My back is filled with searing pain;
there is no health in my body.
8 I am feeble and utterly crushed;
I groan in anguish of heart.
9 All my longings lie open before you, O Lord;
my sighing is not hidden from you.
10 My heart pounds, my strength fails me;
even the light has gone from my eyes.
11 My friends and companions avoid me because of my wounds;
my neighbors stay far away.
12 Those who seek my life set their traps,
those who would harm me talk of my ruin;
all day long they plot deception.
13 I am like a deaf man, who cannot hear,
like a mute, who cannot open his mouth;
14 I have become like a man who does not hear,
whose mouth can offer no reply.
15 I wait for you, O LORD;
you will answer, O Lord my God.
Trust is your confidence in something. You trust your chair will not collapse. You trust your bank will not lose your money. You trust your parents for good guidance.
But a child’s mind is powerless and naive, dependant on the thoughts fed into their brain by the people surrounding them—sometimes good and at times rubbish. For a child, parental influence is a religious doctrine, articles of faith, a framework for social acceptance.
Children receive much of their hopes, dreams and expectations from their parents. Mom and dad are heroes to a child. They represent king and country, religious leaders, and have greater influence than any peer pressure. When children cannot trust their parents, they cannot trust themselves or the world around them, and may develop toxic carcinogenic skepticism as a defense mechanism.
To trust is to become vulnerable to abuse. Skepticism is a defense mechanism used to stop trusting in anything. Even in the face of scientific evidence, the skeptic will defend an erroneous view at all cost. When you enter a diet program, you are looking for the hitch. You don’t trust the information. This shield of skepticism also has an inward impact. Being skeptical of your own talents, skills, and gifts is deadly. You have to develop trust in yourself, God, and your fellowmen.
Skepticism is healthy especially if you meet a con man, but unhealthy skepticism is where you use negative evaluation rather than objective evaluation. Everything is flawed. It stops you learning and growing. The Bible says it best, “Be as wise as serpents and harmless as doves.” (Matthew 10:16). In other words, know the corruption of people’s hearts. Know their capacity for evil. Look for twisted or ulterior motives. Let people prove their trust and put energy into your security. Watch people like a serpent. Watch for their flaws. But, do not use that information for evil. Be harmless as doves. Be smart and watchful, but also kind.
Day 98: Restoring Trust
- Recall a moment when you lost trust to someone so close to you.
- Recollect the feelings you had and describe them in details. List them on a piece of paper.
- Think of this person standing before God and being asked, “Why did you do this?” Will they feel good?
- How could you have changed the impact of this event on your ability to trust?
- Write how this exercise has changed your perception of healthy and unhealthy trust?
Write the following on a card and repeat every hour, out loud or mentally. Put some emotion and energy into it even if you don’t feel it. DO IT!
- I trust myself.
- I let people prove their trust.
- I will hear all information objectively.
- I have trust that not everything is flawed.
- I always look for the positive side of things.
Day 98: Spiritual Restoration
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
Worry is a negative process that destroys problem-solving. It’s a fear-driven thought process rather than a solution-driven process. Worry is a negative reaction to the problem. Worry is based not on reality but on possibility. The scary “What if…”
Worry is toxic self-talk, repetitive fearful thoughts. Thoughts trigger anxiety and fear, which triggers more worry. It is a deadly toxic cycle that fills your mental world with dark depressing scenarios. Toxic worry makes you the helpless victim of your own mind.
Worry or Concern?
Worry is not to be confused with concern. Constant worrying can cause you an emotional wreck, concern is a watchful state for possible threats and a readiness for positive action.
Children by nature are thinkers, artistic, and always striving to please their parents. Parents often push their child towards unrealistic expectations, “You must achieve this grade. You must be like your brother.” Thus causing pressure, fear, and stress as the child cannot match these unrealistic expectations.
When someone is constantly worrying about appearance and diet, it sabotages any attempt to discipline. You will never be able to overcome chronic obesity if your capacity for discipline has been disabled by toxic carcinogenic worry.
The only solution for habitual toxic worrying is to develop strategies for dealing with threats and present problems.
Day 97: Overcoming Worry
10 Steps to Overcoming Worry
1. Understand the problem. – What are you trying to do? A clear goal defines a clear direction on how you are going to get things solved.
2. Analyze the problem. – Be objective. Come up with a plan and start working on it. If the problem changes, change the plan
3. Come up with several possible solutions. – List them, examine them, and weigh them according to their usefulness. If the disadvantage outweighs the benefit, keep looking for solution.
4. Be aware you are worrying. – It is by recognizing that you are worried, that you can start solving it.
5. Stop thinking and start acting. – Don’t get so caught up in worrying that you fail to act. Worrying transformed into a motivation is the only way it can be healthy.
6. Be courageous. – Face the worst possible scenario with courage. Be determined that you will overcome this problem. Get excited that you are about to solve this problem. Have some faith in yourself, your ability, and God. A wimp dies a thousand deaths; a brave man dies but once.
7. Be realistic. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Get real. Is this something you can change? Or something you have to accept?
8. Commit to decisions without regret. – If you second guess and doubt your decisions, you cannot boldly push ahead with that decision. Once you decide on something, stick it out. A bad decision is better than no decision. Decide to be decisive.
9. Don’t recycle the past. – Do not allow past emotions to be part of your present decision-making. If you are feeling worried, STOP! Separate the problem from your emotion. Force yourself to be objective. Pretend somebody else has the same problem. What advice would you give them?
10. Let go, and let God. – Give your problems to God. If He can run a universe, He can certainly fix a tiny problem.
34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
1. Choose your most urgent problem and write it on a piece of paper.
2. Write out your emotions connected to this problem.
3. Determine if these emotions are realistic or not.
4. Visualize the worst possible outcome for this problem and ask yourself if you could survive that.
5. Write out possible strategies to solve the problem.
6. Write out the pros and cons of each strategy and determine value.
7. Make a decision and write it on a piece of paper that is visible.
8. When you feel concerned or worried about this problem, look at your decision and determine not to worry.
Continuous chronic worrying leads to depression–a state of low-energy, and toxic thinking that robs the ability to enjoy life. Chronic depression shuts down the mind making you numb to the world around you. Depression steals your dreams, hopes and motivation and if not stopped, it can steal your life.
Depression is partially the product of an unhappy childhood and negative interactions with society. But this is not the full picture. Although is it is easy to blame parents and your world for your state of mind, you are responsible for what you think, your emotions and state of mind. Until you accept that, you can never be free from depression.
Roots of Depression
During childhood, unattained expectations, abuse or vicious criticisms from your parents, can damaged self-image. To deal with the pain of low self-worth children develop defense mechanisms. The first coping mechanism is worry. Worrying has a payoff. It feelings like you are doing something about the problem. Worrying feels that you are not letting your guard down, being responsible, after all, careless people do not worry about the future. But worry does not fix problems; it makes them worse.
If worry is toxic, then depression is lethal. Childhood fear and worry mutated into adulthood depression, a thought cancer that consumes all it touches. Depression is an advanced coping mechanism. After years of mental stress due to chronic worrying depression is the final plunge into a dark abyss, the loss of caring, feeling, and hope. Depressed people cannot hope as hope demands action and change. Depression becomes a way to cope with painful reality, the final retreat from life.
Depression and Lifestyle
Depression leads to lifestyle extremes such as overeating or not eating at all. Some oversleep or stay awake for unusually long hours. Drugs or alcohol becomes an escape from depression which only deepens the depression. Depression totally destroys all capacity for discipline. The modern solution is to prescribe mind numbing drugs, giving the problem a cute label “mental imbalance”.
Everyone on earth suffers hardship, times when we feel overwhelmed, as if the world is against us. But the key to being a strong person is how you handle challenge and hardship. Strong people see it as an opportunity. They rise to the challenge with courage. Strong people see the good. Their glass is half full with all the blessings of life. To be free, you have to act like a strong person. You have to do what they, do and think like they think. You have to change all your response patterns and toxic behavior.
Recovery starts with you. The process of healing can be painful and take years but , every step is one more toward freedom and happiness. Life is not perfect, bad thing happen, we all have restrictions, but being happy is about your thought life. I have see poor cripples that beamed with joy. I have seen rich healthy powerful men twisted by depression and hating the world while living in abundance. Two very different world and two very different thought lives. Why do you want to continue to be a victim of your thoughts? End it today, be positive. See the good.
If your measure of success is based on what you do not have, your limitations and your mind is filled with all the bad stuff in life, you will never be free of depression. No drug can cure toxic thinking.
No one can reach into that darkness and set you free except God. Depression is a place of humility and crying out to God. He will hear you and help you, but you will have to act.
You will have to do things to break the power of depression in your life. Here are your exercise to break the power of depression. Print this and add a check mark if you do any of these actions. If you deal with depression, you will need to do this for 30 days.
Depression Killer Exercises
1.Force yourself to think good thoughts even if you do not feel like it.
2.Force yourself to go out in public.
3.Force yourself to dress well.
4.Force yourself to keep you home or office clean and organized.
5.Force yourself to do things that happy people would do.
6.Force yourself to keep going when you want to quit.
7.Force yourself to stop worrying.
8.Force yourself to say good things about yourself.
9.Force yourself to find the good in life and those around you.
10.Force yourself to appreciate the little things.
11.Force yourself to life a healthy lifestyle.
12.Force yourself to get angry enough to make changes.
13.Force yourself to pray.
14.I ran out of force, waited and tried again.
References and ideas
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